Relationships — Partner and Marriage
Sankalpa
The divine has brought a beautiful, loving, loyal and caring woman into my life. I stayed open and kept becoming the man worthy of her, and she arrived at exactly the right time. She is my companion, a wonderful future mother, and she cares for my parents as her own. We married in a grand celebration.
What "done" looks like (November 2027)
- I have met and committed to a partner who shares my values.
- We are married, or our marriage is fixed.
- I am the man worthy of her: steady, kind, healthy, and growing.
The two parts of my effort
1. Becoming worthy (what I control most). My body (deha-sadhana), my communication (vak-sadhana), my income (entrepreneurship) and my steadiness all make me a better partner. This part is daily.
2. Staying open (putting myself where she can find me). Meeting new people, saying yes to invitations, letting family and friends know I'm ready, using matrimony or dating apps with care.
What I'm looking for
Write the qualities that matter most. Keep it to the real values.
- Loving and caring
- Loyal
- Cares for my parents as her own
- Wants to be a mother
What I bring
Write what I offer as a partner. Read it when I doubt myself.
Monthly steps
| Month | Step | Done? |
|---|---|---|
| Nov 2026 | Write "What I'm looking for" and "What I bring". | |
| Dec 2026 | Tell my parents and close friends I'm ready. Ask for introductions. | |
| Jan 2027 | Set up or refresh a profile (matrimony site / app) with good photos and an honest bio. | |
| Feb 2027 | Go to one social event, class or community gathering a month. | |
| Mar 2027 | Meet or talk to new people regularly. Practise presence (vak-sadhana skill 1). | |
| Apr 2027 | Review: what's working? Change one thing. | |
| May 2027 | Keep showing up. Stay open, stay light. | |
| Jun 2027 | Halfway review with my parents. | |
| Jul 2027 | Deepen any promising connection. Meet families if it feels right. | |
| Aug 2027 | Talk openly about values, children, parents, Canada, money. | |
| Sep 2027 | Commitment. | |
| Oct 2027 | Plan the wedding together. | |
| Nov 2027 | Grand celebration. |
Love has its own timing. These steps are my effort; when she arrives is His grace.
Tracker
| Month | New people met | Conversations | What I learned about myself |
|---|---|---|---|
If-then plans
- If I feel lonely or impatient, then I put that energy into becoming worthy: train, build, practise.
- If a meeting doesn't go well, then I write one lesson and let it go.